Can My Child Go to Daycare When They’re Sick? A Parent’s Guide to Knowing When to Keep Them Home

It’s 6:47 am.

Your child has a runny nose.

They coughed approximately 400 times overnight but are now somehow running around the lounge room asking for Bluey and toast.

You have work.

They have daycare.

And now you’re standing there wondering:

Can my child actually go to daycare today?

Welcome to one of the great parenting dilemmas.

Because children — particularly children who attend daycare, preschool and early childhood education — get sick. A lot.

And if we kept every child home until they had absolutely no cough, no snot and were operating at 100%, some of us would see our workplaces approximately three times between March and September.

But there are also times when your child genuinely does need to stay home.

So how do you tell the difference?

That’s where your Sick Sense comes in.

First: it isn't just about having symptoms

One of the biggest misconceptions is: Sick = automatically stay home.

It isn’t quite that simple.

Australia’s NHMRC Staying Healthy: Preventing Infectious Diseases in Early Childhood Education and Care Services guidelines explain that decisions about when children should stay away from care depend on things such as:

• how easily an infection spreads

• how long someone is likely to be infectious

• the potential severity of the illness

• the child’s symptoms

• and, importantly, whether they are actually well enough to participate in care.

The aim is to reduce the opportunity for infectious illnesses to spread through early childhood services — particularly to babies, vulnerable children, educators and family members who may be at higher risk.

And sometimes children can be asked to stay home because of their symptoms without having a confirmed diagnosis.

In other words, you don't necessarily need to know exactly which tiny germ has taken up residence in your household before a decision can be made.

The Sick Sense question: “Are they actually well?”

Before we even get into individual illnesses, look at the child in front of you.

Not just the thermometer.

Not just the colour of their snot.

Not just whether they technically meet a particular timeframe.

Look at your child.

Ask yourself:

Are they alert and interacting normally?

Are they breathing comfortably?

Are they drinking?

Are they weeing normally?

Can they participate in their usual activities?

Are they miserable, lethargic or needing significantly more care and comfort than usual?

Are their symptoms improving, staying the same or getting worse?

This is the part I want parents to become confident in.

Because knowing whether your child can return to daycare isn't just about counting hours on a clock.

It’s about looking at the whole child.

What about a cough or runny nose?

This is a big one.

A runny nose or lingering cough does not automatically mean your child needs to stay home.

Current NHMRC guidance says a person with respiratory symptoms such as a cough, sneezing, runny or blocked nose or sore throat should generally stay away from the service when those respiratory symptoms are severe or worsening, or when they occur alongside concerning symptoms such as fever, rash, tiredness, pain or poor feeding.

Children can also have a lingering cough after recovering from a respiratory infection. If their other symptoms have resolved and they are otherwise feeling well, the ongoing cough itself doesn't necessarily mean they need to remain home.

This is why context matters.

A child happily playing with a mild lingering cough is very different from a child who is coughing continuously, breathing harder than usual, feverish, exhausted and unable to participate in their normal day.

Same symptom. Very different child.

The illnesses parents ask me about ALL the time: Here’s a quick guide to some of the common illnesses that sweep through daycare and preschool.

Gastroenteritis: vomiting and diarrhoea

Gastro deserves special mention because the advice can differ depending on the cause and your state or territory.

National NHMRC guidance recommends children stay home until they have had no vomiting or diarrhoea for at least 24 hours. If norovirus is confirmed, that increases to at least 48 hours symptom-free.

However, NSW Health advises children with gastroenteritis to remain home until there has been no loose bowel motion for at least 48 hours.

So if you're in NSW, follow the NSW guidance and your service's illness policy.

And please remember: gastro isn't just inconvenient.

Babies and young children can become dehydrated relatively quickly.

Watch their fluid intake, urine output, behaviour, mouth and lips and overall appearance.

Hand, foot and mouth disease

Those little blisters matter.

Children with hand, foot and mouth disease should stay home until all of the blisters have dried.

That can be particularly frustrating when your child appears completely back to normal but still has active blisters.

Conjunctivitis

Red eye alone doesn't necessarily tell us the cause — conjunctivitis can be viral, bacterial or even allergic.

NSW Health advises children with infectious conjunctivitis to remain home until the discharge from their eyes has stopped.

Chickenpox

Children with chickenpox should remain home until all blisters have dried.

NSW Health notes this is usually at least five days after the rash first appears.

Impetigo or school sores

Children can generally return once appropriate antibiotic treatment has started, with sores on exposed skin covered by a watertight dressing. The current national NHMRC guidance specifies staying away until the day after treatment begins.

Ringworm

Despite the delightful name, ringworm isn't a worm.

It's a fungal infection.

Children should remain home until the day after antifungal treatment has started.

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Whooping cough (pertussis)

This one is important, particularly because whooping cough can be extremely serious for young babies.

Children with pertussis should stay home until they have completed at least five days of appropriate antibiotic treatment.

If antibiotics aren't given, the national guidance recommends staying away for at least 21 days from the onset of coughing.

Public health advice may also be required for close contacts.

Measles

Measles is highly infectious and requires specific public health management.

NSW Health advises children with measles to stay home for at least four days after the rash appears.

Some non-immunised children who have been exposed to measles may also need to remain away despite not being sick themselves. This is one of those situations where you follow the advice of your doctor and Public Health Unit rather than trying to calculate the return date yourself.

Head lice

This one surprises people.

Finding head lice does not mean your child needs to be immediately collected from daycare or school.

Children aren't generally required to stay home provided effective treatment begins before their next attendance.

Slapped cheek

Another surprising one.

Children with slapped cheek disease generally don't need to stay home once the characteristic rash appears, provided they're otherwise well.

That's partly because by the time that recognisable red-cheeked rash develops, the period when they are most infectious has often already occurred.

Influenza, RSV and other respiratory illnesses

There isn't necessarily a magic number of days.

NSW Health advises children with influenza and RSV to remain home until they are well again.

And this brings us straight back to looking at the child, rather than simply counting days.

“But daycare said they can't come back…”

Your early childhood service has its own illness and infection-control policy.

And yes — they can ask you to collect your child or keep them home based on symptoms, even without a formal diagnosis.

The NHMRC specifically advises that services can make decisions based on a child's symptoms as well as a diagnosed illness.

The service also determines whether the child meets its criteria to return.

That means a doctor's certificate doesn't necessarily override the service's return-to-care requirements.

This can be incredibly frustrating when you're trying to juggle work, childcare and a child who appears perfectly fine.

But these policies exist because infection spreads spectacularly well in rooms filled with small humans who share toys, put their hands in their mouths and have a somewhat questionable commitment to personal space.

“But they're still infectious…”

Here is another important distinction:

Being completely free from every possible germ isn't always the same thing as being required to stay home.

For some illnesses, children may continue to carry or shed an organism after their symptoms have improved.

The recommended return time is based on factors including how the illness spreads, how infectious someone is likely to be and whether appropriate hygiene measures can reduce transmission.

This is why different illnesses have different recommendations.

It isn't simply: Sick = home. No symptoms = daycare.

There is much more nuance than that.

When I'd care less about daycare and more about getting your child assessed

This is the part I really want parents to remember.

Sometimes the question isn't:

“Can they go to daycare?”

It's:

“Does my child need medical assessment?”

Seek urgent medical help if your child has concerning symptoms such as:

• difficulty breathing or significant increased work of breathing

• blue, grey, very pale or mottled colour

• being very drowsy, floppy, confused or difficult to wake

• signs of poor circulation

• significantly reduced drinking or urine output

• signs of significant dehydration

• a seizure

• a non-blanching purple or red rash, particularly with illness

• severe or worsening pain

• green vomit

• blood in vomit or stool

• or if your gut is screaming that something isn't right.

NSW Health specifically advises calling 000 for serious symptoms including difficulty breathing, being very drowsy or difficult to wake, or signs of poor circulation.

The childcare question can wait.

The Sick Sense bottom line

When your child wakes up sick and you find yourself Googling “Can my child go to daycare with a cough?”, “How long after gastro can my child return to daycare?” or “Does hand foot and mouth need to stay home?”, I want you to think beyond the diagnosis.

Ask three things:

1. Is there a specific recommendation for this illness or symptom?

Some conditions have very clear return-to-care timeframes.

2. Is my child actually well enough to attend?

A child doesn't need to be bouncing off the walls, but they should be well enough to comfortably participate in their normal day without requiring significantly more individual care than the service can reasonably provide.

3. Is there anything about my child that worries me?

Look at behaviour. Breathing. Colour. Hydration. Pain. Rash. Vomiting. And your gut feeling.

Because the goal isn't to turn parents into doctors.

It isn't to diagnose every virus before breakfast.

And it definitely isn't to make you feel guilty every time your child develops yet another daycare-acquired runny nose.

The goal is to give you enough knowledge to look at your child, recognise what matters and know what to do next.

That's your Sick Sense.

Quick reference: when can my child go back?

Gastro: In NSW, wait until there has been no loose bowel motion for at least 48 hours. National NHMRC recommendations vary depending on the cause, so follow your state/territory and service requirements.

Hand, foot and mouth: When all blisters have dried.

Chickenpox: When all blisters have dried.

Conjunctivitis: In NSW, when eye discharge has stopped.

School sores/impetigo: After appropriate treatment has commenced; current national guidance recommends returning the day after treatment begins, with exposed sores covered.

Ringworm: The day after treatment begins.

Whooping cough: After at least five days of appropriate antibiotics, or at least 21 days from onset of coughing if antibiotics aren't given.

Head lice: No routine stay-home period if effective treatment starts before the next attendance.

Slapped cheek: No routine stay-home period if otherwise well.

Influenza/RSV: When your child is well again.

Always check your early childhood service's policy and current state or territory health advice, particularly during outbreaks.

A note from Illy

As a paediatric nurse, educator and mum, one of the biggest things I want to change is the feeling that parents need a medical degree to know what to do when their child gets sick.

You don't.

You need good information.

You need to know what red flags actually look like.

You need to know when you can safely monitor your child at home, when you should make that GP appointment and when something needs urgent assessment.

And you need the confidence to trust what you're seeing.

That's exactly why I created The Sick Sense.

Not to diagnose your child.

To help you build the knowledge and confidence to know what to do next.

References

This article was developed using current Australian guidance from the National Health and Medical Research Council (NHMRC), NSW Health, SA Health and Australian early childhood infection-control resources.

For the most current recommendations, refer to the NHMRC Staying Healthy: Preventing Infectious Diseases in Early Childhood Education and Care Services – 6th Edition and your relevant state or territory health department.

Disclaimer: This information is general education only and does not replace individual medical advice, assessment or the illness and infection-control policies of your child's early childhood education and care service.